"One More Day"

As I have mentioned in this blog before, I often see the world and relationships through songs, for I believe that music is the essence of the soul and is often inspired by the true emotions of the heart. Music (to me) is like a barometer of our inner-most thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
An example of this is a song on my playlist called “One More Day” by Diamond Rio (go ahead and play it from my playlist if you would like); which I find very applicable to many events and relationships in my life. The song is basically about what the singer/writer would do if he just had one more day with this person (I’m assuming his wife or girlfriend). The chorus of the song states the following:

One more day,
One more time,
One more sunset, maybe Id be satisfied,
But then again,
I know what I would do
Leave me wishing still,
for one more day with you

How many of us can identify these lyrics with a love one? Then why do we seem to take the people that we say that we love for granted? Why is it we seem to fill our days with “things” that, in the end, really doesn’t matter; that when the time comes that the ones we really care for and love, we wished that we just had “one more day”, but yet even with one more day, we would still be wishing for one more day. The first part of the song states that he didn’t ask for money or a mansion in Malibu; meaning that when it comes down to what is really important in life isn’t wealth, fortune, or fame; but how you treat the people in your life.

The second verse in the song hits on the “things” that we allow to get in the way:

First thing Id do, is pray for time to crawl

Then Id unplug the telephone

And keep the TV off

I’d hold you every second

Say a million I love yous

That's what Id do,

with one more day with you

I hate to say this, but it is the truth, and I have promised to stay honest on my blog, but I am extremely guilty of doing the same things with the ones I love.

How many times have I allowed a TV show (which in the end, doesn’t mean a thing and produces nothing in return), a movie, a sports game, a book, or the (and this is a biggy) Internet get in the way of our relationships. There have been many times that I know that I have hurt my wife’s or my kids’ feelings because I have treated those “things” as more important than they are. It leads me to believe that maybe we use these “things” as way to escape or as a way to not have to deal with certain issues, whether conscious or unconscious. If we really think about it – why don’t we hold that person for a little longer or say the “I love yous” more often.

What is it that we are afraid of? Is it that we feel too vulnerable if we show our tender and affectionate side? Do we fear that we won't receive love in return? At what point do we reach in a relationship where we feel we don’t have to continually maintain that relationship, whether with a spouse, a child, a mother/father, or a friend? And I am asking these questions of myself as well.

What would you trade for just “one more day”, or one more hug, one more encouraging word, one more kiss, one more “I love yous”?